BDSM is a spectrum.
There is not one way to subspace. One of the reasons why I wrote Lock and Key is to show different types of BDSM relationships. I wrote a chapter on an intro to BDSM class so people could get the experience of attending one and the basic knowledge that the characters would be utilizing throughout the book.
Relationships vary because each person needs something different and has limits unique to them.
I do still (& always will) take issue with anyone invalidating folks by labeling activities as sugarkink/glitterkink. To do so means you're coming from a place of privilege others might not have and judging them for it. Sooooo don't make me frown at you.
People CAN and DO play both roles. There was a question whether Zack Davis (my main character from Lock and Key) could pull off a Dom role when he was such a submissive. Psst, some paid Doms are submissives which is why they are so incredible at their job because they know what triggers a sub. Also a submissive in the Dom role can find joy bringing someone to subspace (aka Zack) though they may or may not experience topspace.
Finally, I'll point out many Dominants train as a submissive so they can experience what they are trying to help the submissive achieve. People who don't even consider themselves switches are usually (but not always) capable of doing a different role.
Here's a video I thought was cute.
Hugs, Z.
Rejected. Heartbroken. Devastated.
Zack Davis wanted to serve only one man, Andrew Nikeman. He was denied because Andrew thought he was too young and because their brothers were together. So Zack crushed his submissive tendencies and focused on being the perfect Dom, giving every sub he played with something he couldn’t have.
After years of denying his submissive side, Entwined’s charity auction “Are you Dom Enough to be a sub?” gives Zack an excuse to get a little of what he’s always craved.
Andrew doesn’t know when his infatuation turned into more, but it kills him to see Zack with a constant parade of submissives. He’d refused to jeopardize his brother’s relationship or become Zack’s regret; however, Zack isn’t a kid anymore, and his brother’s relationship is unbreakable. Now Zack’s popularity and success as a Dom might ruin Andrew’s dreams of collaring him, but he can’t wait any longer to confess his feelings or he risks losing the man he loves forever.
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