Impact play is consensual spanking, flogging, paddling, and striking. Spanking is an easy and safe gateway into BDSM. Impact play/Spanking/Cropping/Whippings is about experiencing pain within a framework of trust and control that can allow you to leave the bounds of your day-to-day existence, and soar.
Why Do Folks Participate in Impact Play?
*The activity can make you feel more submissive. After all, you’re willingly submitting to someone else’s actions. You (in some cases) are bending over and taking pain because someone is asking you to.
*Claiming your sexuality.
*You’re being a little naughty and not quite vanilla you’re dipping your toes into the wild side (& that in and of itself can be liberating).
*Impact play can be part of a larger role play which can be fun and stimulating. (Officer & Speeder, Naughty student & teacher, etc.)
*This activity allows you give up control which be freeing.
*Relieves stress: Sometimes the impact pulls you out of your head and forces you to focus on the present moment. (“Shit! Someone is spanking me. Ow!” You’re no longer worried about your writer’s block, the piles of work you need to do, laundry that needs to be folded, etc. You can’t think past the OUCH!)
*Maintenance Spankings: Some Dom(s)/sub(s) implement a regularly scheduled spanking to: address any “misdeeds” (real/fake), to keep sub on the right track with a reminder of what happens if they are naughty or just to spank because the people involved enjoy impact play.
*Punishment: paying for mistakes and giving you clean slate. It can relieve guilt at a failure. Some of us are wired to want to do penance so we can move past a mistake.
*Maybe you want to show your obedience to your Dom/lover(s) and enduring a bit of pain for them is exactly what you want.
*Impact play can cause discomfort or pain but for some the discipline morphs into something pleasure.
*Orgasm: Some of us can get off on impact play.
How you ask?
Everyone is different but I’ll throw out some whys I’ve seen, heard, and experienced. (Keep in mind this is not an exhaustive list.)
Physical: The sensation awakens nerve endings in the area which makes us more sensitive. Blood rushes to that area. (You know how massage feels good even though the kneading can hurt a little as are muscles are being forced to relax? Think about spanking as a version of massage).
Pain causes the central nervous system to release endorphins into the body. Direct rhythmic impact can result in orgasm. (Keep the rhythm steady and expected so the sub can build to release.)
Mental: Impact play can be mentally gratifying. The willingness to submit wholly to pain for someone else. The sub might see a spanking as humiliating and get super turned on. Being put in “one’s place” can push you pass the “typical” and open you up to climax.
((FYI: A bit of a warning: These hands-free orgasms might be satisfying or they could just be a tease for MORE a lot MORE… NOW.))
Before Impact Play:
*Make sure everyone understands what will happen.
*The striker needs to know where it is safe to hit. Usually sticking with butt and thighs, and avoiding organs.
*A safeword needs to be set.
*No coercion should be involved.
*If adding humiliation into it make sure everyone is into that otherwise it can go south quick.
Impact play can be done with no equipment purchased. You can use your hand.
Or items found around the house: a slipper, back of a brush, a wooden spoon, ruler, etc. Or of course you can get fancy and go all out. (My humble advice is make sure you enjoy it before you invest.)
Test the Impact:
It’s always recommended the striker test the impact on themselves to gauge the level of intensity. Impact play can be a light slap on the butt to the crack of the riding crop. (Make sure you start slow! A warmup spanking can help ready the skin making more intense equipment more—interesting)
Keep in mind if you add words and you might be adding humiliation or role play into the scene.
(Based on your scene/role play: Teacher: “You failed. I warned you if you didn’t study and get a good grade on your test what your punishment would be…” Or a Dom: “I’m very disappointed in you and you need to be punished.” “You were such a good sub. I’m going to spank your beautiful bottom until it glows.” “Tell me how many spanks you should have for your maintenance spanking?”)
Excerpt from Lock and Key:
Info: It’s Zack’s birthday. The scene takes place at a BDSM club called Entwined. Zack has been with each of these subs before and he already knows the intensity of the paddle (Btw you & me he’d rather be taking a paddling than giving impact play to others sigh but that’s an issue that needs solving).
I chose this scene because I wanted to draw your attention to the different needs and responses each sub had toward the paddle. Some were into and wanted to be paddled harder and others did not.
***The Dom(s) should be watching the subs to figure out what they want and need out of impact play, and know what the role of impact play has in their relationship(s)***
Everyone started to sing, “Happy Birthday to you!”
When the song drew to a close, someone in the crowd yelled, “It’s birthday spanking time!”
Orion took the paddle Zack hadn’t noticed Tony was holding and handed the wood to Zack, handle first. He returned to the line and pulled down his pants.
Fuck! A line of the twenty-one cutest butts he’d ever seen were de- pantsed and wiggling for him.
The crowd applauded, and someone shouted out, “Get to it!”
Each of the subs peeked over their shoulder and grinned at him.
Orion said, “Give us each two for your birthday, Sir,” as if it weren’t a flimsy excuse for staging an exhibition.
Fuck! Zack prayed he didn’t stumble and face-plant on the stage.
He focused on the handsome, giving subs rather than being the center of attention. He traced his hand over each sub’s presented backside. Soft skin, various skin tones, different sizes... it was a veritable buffet of spankable bottoms.
When he reached the end of the line, the bent-over man re-arched his back to give Zack a perfect target, and with a wicked grin, he said, “Happy birthday, Sir.”
Zack drew back the paddle and whacked the smooth surface across the rounded butt in front of him. The swat vibrated the handle.
“One more, Sir,” the sub begged and twitched his butt, inviting the paddle.
Zack swung and connected.
“Umph! Thank you, Sir.” The first sub jumped up and rubbed his ass with two hands.
Wow! Zack stared down the lineup of men stretching across the entire stage, amazed they all had bent over for him. Focus! He sidestepped to the next sub. He answered the “Happy birthday, Sir” with one good hard whack followed by a second.
“Thank you, Sir!”
The third sub turned with big blue eyes, biting his lower lip. Ah, Roberto didn’t like a lot of pain and only enjoyed playful pats. It melted Zack’s heart that he would participate in this celebration anyway.
“Happy birthday, Sir.” His voice cracked.
Zack respected the bravery and tapped him twice with a light touch on the bottom.
The sub mouthed, “Thank you.”
The next submissive liked it hard. Zack complied and slammed the paddle down on the pristine cheeks, leaving two red rectangles.
“Mmmmm, thank you, Sir.”
Zack shuffled down the line, doling out the paddle smacks according to each sub’s needs. Some he pulled back and stepped into the swing to add an extra wallop, and for others he barely touched the wood to their skin.
The surreal nature of this scene hit him as he glanced back down the line of the subs. Some were rubbing their butts, a few had other subs rub their asses for them, and others had their pants back up, arms folded, and watching the live action.
Tony jumped up as he squealed, “Thank you, Sir.” The big man liked the afterglow and the sting but not the stroke it took to get there.
Zack didn’t look out at the audience, but he couldn’t help but wonder if Andrew had shown. They didn’t see each other much at the club, though that didn’t stop his stupid heart from racing when he caught a glimpse of him. Or the slice of inappropriate jealousy that stabbed him in the gut whenever Andrew went into or came out of the back rooms.
He continued down the line, slapping asses.
Xander winked at him. “Happy Birthday, Sir.” He turned his head forward and twitched his ass back and forth, as if his ass alone wasn’t enticing enough.
Zack smacked the twerkable backside with a good solid whack. “Again, Sir!”
After pulling back, Zack connected with a loud pop.
After pulling back, Zack connected with a loud pop.
Xander popped up and rubbed his ass. “Ow! Thank you, Sir.” Orion happened to be last in line.
Zack doubted he’d ever give Orion what he needed, but he’d try to come close. He pulled the paddle over his shoulder.
“Happy Birthday, Sir. Hard, please.” Orion grunted at the impact. “Mmmm, thank you, Sir.”
Zack rubbed the red outline of the paddle on Orion’s ass. Damn, that would be painful.
The man pushed the curtain of hair out of his face and asked, “How about one for good luck, Sir?”
The audience laughed.
Zack shrugged and gave Orion what he asked for by putting his weight into the swing. The pop of the paddle echoed through the room. “And one for good luck.”
Zack surveyed the subs. No one appeared worse for the wear from the paddle kisses.
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I’m a strong believer in keeping spanking between consenting adults. I knew I was “kinky” at four thankfully I wasn’t hit as a child because that would have been bizarrely confusing and upsetting. (Studies show spanking doesn’t work long-term and can have negative lasting effects.)
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