What’s the allure of NOT coming?
Ever go on a diet? All of a sudden, you are craving
everything you shouldn’t have. For many, the concept works the same way with
orgasm denial. If you’re told not to come, all you want to do is come. Some
subs become consumed with the idea. Their entire world can shrink down to not
doing exactly what they want to do. It also might get some into subspace
quicker.
Why do it?
*Gift
Your orgasm is something you can give to your Dom(s).
*Mind Fuck
It’s a predicament: the sub is gagging to orgasm but doesn’t
because they want to follow the Dom’s instructions, to willingly make the
sacrifice. The choice to participate in denial is done of the sub’s free will
(during negotiations) and it can cause much suffering, which can feed a
masochistic need to give until it hurts.
*Part of Play
Games of control are easily played in this arena, and
usually no equipment is involved. The intensity and level can be easy to
extreme. Be mindful of what you are agreeing to, and always remember your
safeword is there to save you from things beyond your limit.
*Pleasure
When it finally comes, the resulting orgasm can be intense
and mind-blowing. Although, depending on the sub, it might be weak and
unsatisfying, especially if their mind didn’t adjust to the idea it was okay to
orgasm. Their body came, but their head couldn’t experience it as pleasure,
making it more of a ruined orgasm. Or, in a sadistic relationship, it would be
easy to ruin that orgasm by removing stimulation so all the buildup results in
crossed messages and the sub’s body doesn’t process the pleasure.
*Lots of other reasons
As usual, this is not an exhaustive list. The reasons to
participate can vary, might be a combination of facts, and can change over
time.
Edging
The sub is denied permission to come but either stimulates
themselves or their Master(s) do. The object of edging is to get to the razor’s
edge of orgasm and then pull back. Stepping back from the pleasure can be
extremely difficult, especially when everything in the sub’s body wants to orgasm.
Edging can easily be used in sub assignments or control games.
Some subs can transfer their ecstasy from the craving an
orgasm to not having an actual release. The following of instructions and
pleasing their Master(s) supersede their transitory moment of physical bliss.
Orgasm Delay
Depending on the sub’s negotiated limits, this is a scene
that can last for minutes, hours, or days and then possibly end in orgasm.
Orgasm Denial
This is more often days or weeks… and in some cases, months.
(Of course, there are the stories of denial lasting years and ever forever… but
those would be rather rare.)
Chastity Belts
There’s a variety of devices out in the world to help
prevent orgasm.
If you use chastity devices, please make sure you have a
plan to deal with hygienic issues. Not having access to your body can lead to
major health risks. You must read and study so you aren’t harmed.
You have to know and trust your keyholder. Have an extra key
(or six) in case of accidents and medical emergencies. (I hear the gasps and
the murmuring that having a key defeats the purpose… I will always land on the
side of safety.)
All this being said, accidental and on purpose orgasms can
happen while in chastity. One only has to look on the Internet to see subs
outsmarting chastity belts with vibrators, penetration, or various other
techniques. If the sub is asked to edge they can slip over without meaning to
do so. Some Masters will milk the prostate of male subs, which is a way of
releasing the buildup of fluid but gives little or no pleasure. Female subs may
be a bit more of a challenge. As a number of my readers and myself can attest, they
may struggle with hands-free orgasms.
Triggers
Somehow, there’s a general belief that all subs can and want
to give their pleasure to their Master(s). This seems to be the first unwritten
rule of BDSM. Perhaps for some it is, but not all subs can participate in it.
There might be baggage that can restrict the sub’s freedom to hand themselves over
in this way. These limits should be respected, discussed, and the subs should
not be shamed for this limitation.
Remember, limits are opportunities for the Dom to become
more creative.
This is one of the reasons I call myself a broken loveslave.
As intriguing as orgasm delay/denial appears, this is a hard limit of mine
after a rather terrible experience. If a scene involves sex, fuck anyone who
thinks I shouldn’t be allowed to orgasm. Sexual assault plays a part in my
damage, but when you are speaking to other subs, don’t make assumptions that the
answer is simply they should just try harder to be more submissive. The baggage
they are saddled with may have nothing to do with submission.
The other side of orgasm denial is forced orgasm. In Lock
and Key, the Master does a forced orgasm scene where he takes the sub
well beyond his endurance for pleasure.
But since this blog is about orgasm denial, I wanted to
share an orgasm denial scene in Lock and Key. Zack is a sub who
has loved Andrew (Master Drew) for years. This scene takes place during the
weekend Andrew has won Zack in the audition for Are you Dom enough to be a
sub? (This is the last scene during that weekend.)
Please enjoy the excerpt from Lock and Key:
“Oh God!” Fuck! Why
had he chosen to explore orgasm denial? He could have picked anything else. But
no, this insane, desperate hell was his own damned creation. He loved the
feeling of dying to orgasm... as he had for hours... days... forever.
Even during his rest periods, he was tormented with dreams when he
escaped into sleep. Visions of being collared by Master Drew, being fucked on
stage at Entwined for all to see, and hot vanilla sex, dipped in love, filled
his head.
Sometime in the middle of the night—or was it day, impossible to
tell with Drew’s blackout curtains—a friendly hand teased Zack. The quiet
manipulation left him breathless and panting but without satisfaction.
He shuddered, frantic for relief. His Master had dragged him to
the precipice where each stroke made him dance maddeningly close to giving up
and letting go.
His Master’s knowledge of his body was once again used against him
as the fist tightened and set up a rhythm to bring him off.
Shit! God,
why did Master Drew have to stroke him perfectly? The speed increased by a
fraction.
Fuck! Zack
might have been tempted not to confess the orgasm he edged. All he needed to do
was remain silent, and he could so easily slip over into the bliss that
beckoned him. But deep inside, even more than the transcendent feeling of
orgasm, it was vitally important to him to be Drew’s perfect sub. That
accomplishment meant more to him than any release.
Kneel. Serve. His.
Fuck! He
tightened his grip on the damp sheets. When the weekend ended, Zack wanted to
be the one Drew would regret never having again. He choked out the words
through a groan. “Close. Um, oh so close.” The delicious pressure vanished,
leaving his cock to pulsate in the cool air. Was this the eighth time or
eightieth? Zack had lost track of the number of orgasms he hadn’t been allowed
to have.
“Such
a good pet,” Master Drew purred to him as he traced his hands down Zack’s
quivering body.
He
tried to speak, but only a whimper came out.
His Master licked the palm of his hand and traced wetness over the
length of Zack’s cock. When he reached the tip, he pressed the shaft down,
stretching Zack’s cock toward his thighs. The turgid member held there,
pointing at his toes for a moment before Master Drew released the staff and
allowed the length to snap up, slapping Zack in the lower belly.
“Oh.” Zack breathed out a groan at the tingling. He was in the
zone. Every sensation his Master gave him became a precious gift he wanted to
savor.
His Master danced his fingers along Zack’s body to stroke his
face. Drew pressed a soft kiss on Zack’s lips, which made his heart sing. “You
love this, don’t you, pet?”
Yes. No. Zack
managed an affirmative grunt.
Master Drew wrapped his hand around Zack’s cock and pulled upward
on the shaft. “Can you answer me, pet?”
Oh fuck! He did
adore the overwhelming feeling and unidentified emotions. Totally focused on
his body, finding words to answer the question proved difficult. He wanted to
suffer for Drew and prove himself worthy of being Drew’s.
Master Drew tipped a bottle of oil over his cock.
Zack held his breath as the line of lubricant hit his
oversensitive flesh, making him keen with tormented pleasure as the liquid slid
down his shaft. The sensation was almost enough to make him come, and then
Master Drew massaged the oil all over to force Zack even closer to the edge.
His cock dripped with the glistening substance.
Master Drew cupped Zack’s full balls and squeezed.
Mmmm.
His Master pulled his sac down and held him. Any stimulation was
amplified. Zack shook his head to deny the irresistible pleasure trying to
defeat him.
No! Oh God. No!
His Master’s fist glided up and down, easier with the lubricant.
Resistance to his ministrations was futile. The pressure increased slightly,
pushing the stimulation closer to the threshold of pain. “Answer.” The clipped
word demanded Zack’s attention and respect as his Master tightened his grip.
Answer? Answer what? Oh, he’d asked
something.
Zack forced past the torturous stimulation in order to obey his
Master’s command. What was the question he asked? Oh yeah: You love this?
The answer was easy. “Yes, Master Drew. I love....” A groan
prevented him from answering completely.
Thank God! To
admit such a bold truth would surely make any sense of normalcy in their future
impossible. He wouldn’t share how deep his affection ran or he’d push Drew away
completely.
Zack panicked and changed his words to something completely
obvious. “I love what you’re doing to me.”
The squeezing discomfort ended, and a loving stroke was given to
his cock. Zack’s mind and body responded to the simple black-and- white world
of reward and consequence. If he succeeded in his task, he’d be rewarded, so it
stood to reason if his attempt failed, he would be punished. Although Master
Drew enjoyed blurring the lines, punishment became pleasure and reward a
torment. Trust was the only thing Zack could do.
Kneel. Serve... his.
Zack panted as Master Drew pumped him slowly from the root to the
tip of his erection. “You love it but at the same time hate it. You want me to
stop?”
Stop? Yes! No! He’d
die if his Master didn’t continue. Zack tried to thrust up against the
maddening ecstasy and torture to get a little more of the friction he craved.
Not enough! More! Never enough!
Ropes held him in place, however. He was grateful Master Drew made
him secure against Zack’s own selfish actions. His Master helped him succeed in
achieving his gift of submission.
It was a deceptively simple bondage structure but completely
effective. His thighs and above his elbows were wrapped with three inches of
cotton bands. The bands were attached to a lead of rope that disappeared under
the bed, secured to his other side. There was only enough play in the rope to
allow him to squirm.
“Don’t stop, Master” sounded more like a sob than a response.
Master Drew wrapped one hand around Zack’s balls and tugged them
lightly while teasing around the crown of Zack’s penis with the fingertips from
his other hand. Zack leaked so much precome he didn’t know what he was wetter
from, the lubricant or his own fluids.
His Master’s attention to his body couldn’t have been more
complete. He rubbed each droplet of fluid exiting his slit along Zack’s flesh.
When Master Drew wrapped his fist around Zack’s erection again, he
almost shouted his demand to orgasm. The strokes started out light and
unhurried. The caresses built up in strength and speed.
He was paralyzed; all he could do was lay there and endure for his
Master.
Trust. Serve. His.
He was there as a toy to be played with or ignored as Master Drew
deemed fit.
Surrender. Trust. His.
“That’s right, my little sub. Relinquish your control. Believe in
me to give you what you need. You’re doing well,” his Master praised him.
His. Submit. Always.
Zack no longer struggled against achieving his own satisfaction.
He’d given Master Drew everything he had and everything he was.
His Master gave him a deep, approving growl. “That’s right.
Surrender to me, my pet. Just be.” The cadence of his Master’s words was
hypnotic.
The request was a balm soothing Zack’s soul. He’d wanted this for
so long, and he could do nothing but grab his submissiveness with two hands and
see where this ended. His needs didn’t vanish, but they were reorganized into
the background as he flew higher than he’d ever imagined possible.
Physical desire mounted in Zack, but he separated from the
excitement to focus on his Master’s actions. He’d do his Master’s bidding
regardless of the toll it took on him.
Zack required his Master to make him pay a price, to make his
submission worthy of his Master. His balls constricted, and he tried to push
the need to ejaculate away, but he couldn’t.
He whined, hoping to be saved. “Master!”
“Do not come.” The command brokered no room for confusion.
The words froze Zack’s orgasm within his trembling body and
stopped his imminent eruption.
Master Drew didn’t give him any relief but tightened his grip,
causing Zack to shake with the added tension. His cock jerked angrily at the
denial as the strokes continued to force him to ride the razor’s edge.
“You’re so good, Zack.” His Master sounded pleased with him and
made the accomplishment worth the painful struggle.
Sweat dripped off Zack’s body as he strained against his need.
Master Drew stroked him at the perfect tempo as if he dared Zack
to come.
“Now, I’m going to pull out your plug, and I’m going to fuck
myself inside of you until I come.” He wiped some of Zack’s sweaty hair out of
his face. “Will you enjoy me taking my pleasure inside you?”
Zack croaked out something he hoped might be passable for a yes.
His Master stared down at him. “You won’t come. Understood?” Impossible! A whimper escaped as Zack contemplated the
task in
front of him. He squeezed his eyes shut for a brief moment. He
wanted to please his Master, but his body didn’t seem up to the continued
deprivation. He’d never attempted sex without orgasm. Was he capable of
succeeding in this task?
Failing his Master was unacceptable.
Kneel. Serve. His.
“Do you understand?”
Zack recognized the concept, but setting it into practice was
another matter. “Yes, Master.”
Drew paused and smiled at him. He grabbed Zack’s hand and kissed
the palm. “You’re incredible. You know that, right?”
Zack’s love for Drew expanded the seams of his heart a bit more.
He’d do anything asked of him.
Drew caressed the side of Zack’s face and then slipped back into
the Master role. He retied Zack’s legs with impressive efficiency so they were
bent at the knees to accommodate having a pillow tucked under his ass. The
angle put his opening in perfect position for Master Drew’s cock to enter him.
The slick plug was twisted out of Zack’s ass, leaving behind an
empty void. Master Drew rolled on a condom, traced a palm covered in lube over
his jutting cock, and pushed into Zack. The head of Drew’s cock moved past the
tight ring of muscles on a slow glide until Zack was full of his Master.
“Yes.” Zack hissed at being filled.
Joined. Connected. Heaven.
At that moment, his orgasm no longer mattered. His whole being now
focused on pleasing this man he loved.
Master Drew trembled against him when he was fully seated. A zap
of power coursed through Zack. He wanted to cause this magnificent, dominant
man to lose his tightly held control.
In. Out. In. Out.
The rhythm remained leisurely, his Master’s breath was coming in
pants, his eyes squeezed closed.
Zack’s muscles strained with the lack of orgasm, but his mind
rejoiced at having an opportunity to satisfy his Master. He dug his heels into
the mattress to eliminate the give. He not only held still for his Master’s
gratification, but he thrust as much as the ropes allowed, helping his Master
achieve greater heights.
Master Drew’s eyes widened as he sighed with appreciation of the
unrequested change. Zack was probably topping from the bottom, but he wanted
his Master to feel as good as he did. He squeezed his ass muscles.
Drew gasped out a moan. His name fell from Master Drew’s lips like
an accusation and exaltation all at once.
Zack throbbed for release. His total concentration was on bringing
his Master to orgasm. Master Drew gripped Zack’s thighs as he sped up his
thrusts.
He continued to welcome his Master’s invading cock, as much as
being tied down granted. The angle was perfect for hitting him in exactly the
right spot. He could have easily enjoyed a powerful hands- free orgasm, but
Zack wouldn’t fail.
No. Zack pushed away his need and focused on Master Drew’s
impending climax.
Again and again his Master thrust into him and withdrew. He leaned
down to crash against Zack’s lips to claim a hard, passionate kiss. Drew
snapped his hips forward and back, continuing to fuck Zack hard and fast.
Master Drew’s grunts turned into a long groan, and he held himself
deep inside of Zack.
A thrill raced through Zack when he imagined he felt the heat fill
the condom. When the peak of his orgasm passed, Master Drew fucked into Zack to
extend the last few seconds of bliss.
His Master collapsed on top of him, pinning Zack’s aroused cock
down to his stomach. The pressure was delicious. His cock was positioned in a
way that if he rocked a little, he’d be capable of climax.
Don’t come.
Don’t come. Don’t come.
His body trembled with his pent-up lust. He remained still,
awaiting permission, concentrating on the feeling of his neck being nibbled and
teased.
His Master pulled his head back to smile down at Zack, causing
butterflies to dance and flutter about. “Your restraint was admirable.” Master
stroked Zack’s wet hair off his neck and face. “You need beautifully.”
Tears pricked the back of his eyes. Fuck, Zack’s control over his
emotions vanished with a few choice words of praise. “Thank you, Master.”
“Shall I untie you?” Master Drew slid out of him and tossed the
condom into the waste bin near the bed.
Disappointment washed over him. Was the scene over? Was Master
Drew going to make him continue to experience orgasm denial? He quivered with
the concept. What had seemed like a very exciting idea hours ago sucked in his
current reality.
Zack decided he rather liked orgasm delay, but orgasm denial, not
so much.
By Master Drew’s smirk, Zack realized his face broadcast his
thoughts. “Or should I continue?”
“Continue,” Zack blurted out. He quickly added, “Master.” Frankly,
he didn’t care what Master Drew meant by continuing, just as long as he didn’t
stop. He wasn’t ready to leave this place.
“Zack, I’m thirsty.”
What? Now? A stab
of desire passed through him at the idea of tending to his Master’s simpler
wants. Anything Drew needed, Zack wanted to provide. “Um, if you untie me, I
can get you something.” Though bottles of water were in the mini fridge in a
nightstand cabinet only a few feet away from the bed.
A sexy smile crawled over his Master’s lips. “I need you to quench my thirst.”
What?
As the man slid down his body, he teased every part of Zack with
his sexy slither. “I need to taste my pet’s completion.”
“Oh.” The word squeaked out as if Zack had turned into a mouse. He
only hoped his lust-addled brain was right about where his Master was going
with this discussion.
Drew dipped his dark head of perfectly styled hair toward Zack’s
aroused cock. “You’ve done incredible today. You’ve earned the right to satisfy
my need to drink you. Would you like to quench my thirst?”
Zack’s cock was more than ready. “God, yeah. Please!”
His Master grinned. “Yes, that’s what I want. I want you to beg me
as I suck you off.”
Hell yeah! He
could do that. “Master Drew, please suck me off,” Zack choked out, totally
ready for the sweetest death ever.
“Try to hold back, so you can enjoy a little more buildup.” After
saying that, he lowered his head and licked the trail of wetness that seeped
from the tip of Zack’s cock. He backed off to add, “You’ve made me very happy.
Come when you want, my sweet little sub.”
My. Aw, that word touched
Zack’s empty places inside and filled them. He’d made Drew happy. That’s all
he’d ever wanted out of life. His cock pulsed, reminding him of something else
he wanted at this moment.
“Yessssss,” Zack hissed from a desperate place only hours of
denial could locate.
His Master covered Zack’s cock with his mouth. Slurping pulls of
suction teased him. He slid his mouth farther down to envelop more of Zack’s
shaft.
Zack wanted to beg in a sexy way, but his brain was fried.
His Master started bobbing his head with purpose. No matter how
manfully Zack tried to hold out, he couldn’t stop the floodgates Drew opened
with his sucking.
“Please.” Zack’s arousal had built into an inferno that Drew had
stoked and ignited countless times. This time Zack wasn’t going to be stopped.
His Master was thirsty, and Zack’s duty was to quench his Master’s thirst.
Zack reached for his climax. It was impossible to catch his breath
as his balls drew up tighter. His core started to tingle. The trembling
sensations radiated through his belly and thighs.
The feeling no longer could be contained. Ecstasy chased up his
body, and with thrusts of his hips, come shot out of his cock. Long waves of
pleasure rocked him as his Master swallowed around him. Again and again his
cock pulsated with spurts of his delayed climax that seemed to shake him
forever.
He lay there in a daze.
Drew released the knots one at a time. The sliding of rope
loosened up and freed Zack in a way he never wished to be liberated.
He drank from the bottle of water his Master held for him.
His Master. No never his.
Zack closed his eyes as Drew wrapped the covers around him.
Why couldn’t he stay here forever? He wanted to remain locked at
Master Drew’s side.
Their forever was about to end all too soon. This was only a
fantasy, not a key to the future.
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BIO: Z. Allora believes in happily ever after for
everyone. She met her own true love through the personals and has traveled to
over thirty countries with him. She’s lived in Singapore, Israel and China. Now
back home to the USA she’s an active member of PFLAG and a strong supporter of
those on the rainbow in her community. She wants to promote understanding and
acceptance through her actions and words. Writing rainbow romance allows her
the opportunity to open hearts and change minds.
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