Thursday, February 21, 2019

Insta-love on my 26th Wedding Anniversary


Insta-love relationships can be seen as negative. Well, they say write what you know… I know insta-love because I met the love of my life 31 years ago on Oct 20th. I took out a personal in a college paper (#LifeBeforeDatingApps).

I wrote:

RPI Male,
Are there any among you who believe in romance?
Candlelight dinners, roses, picnics, long walks under the stars…
Restore my faith in males—respond in the Poly.
L

Twenty-two guys responded to me. He responded:

L—
We’re out there. In fact, some of us have spent a good part of our lives searching for someone to bring roses to, make candlelit dinners for, and walk with under a starlit night. Some of us are still searching…
–S

He was the fourth guy I met through my personal ad. It was Oct 20th at 5:08pm.

At dinner he asked, “So what do you want out of life?”

I had to bit my tongue because I wanted to say “YOU!”

Twenty-five minutes after saying “Hello” I knew he was my soulmate. Now of course this put me in a tailspin. You can’t meet the man of your dreams in the personals! That’s just crazy romance novel nonsense, and not at such a young age.

For the next six months, I denied that we were meant to be. But even as I couldn’t quite believe this was my (our) reality I couldn’t let go of our bond. We dealt with family and friends who said we were too young and didn’t know any better. How could we possibly know we were meant to be together 25 minutes into our first date?








So, I stand before you and lay my 31 years of evidence (26 years of being married) at your feet and proclaim insta-love is not insane. It happens. Maybe it’s a rare thing but damn I throw myself and him down as proof rare doesn’t mean never.

In The Temple of Heaven, I wrote what I know. Jordon Davis and Tian Di Zhao meet and that’s it. Both of them fight everything society and family tried to make them believe and one kiss wiped away years of conditioning. They fall in love and each decide to hold tight no matter what that means. The two of them battle a homophobic society, overbearing and overly protective family members, and the disbelief that insta-love is real.




The Temple of Heaven Blurb:
Music is Tian Di’s life and his love, and he’s made plenty of sacrifices. His career is finally taking off with his band, Made in China, and he’ll continue to put music first... until he meets Jordon. Then insta- lust becomes insta-love and a commitment to the future—no matter how difficult it might be.
Jordon lives in a bubble constructed by his overprotective older brothers, who are so controlling that they’ve kept him from dating. A talented artist, Jordon managed to keep his success with a Japanese manga publisher a secret from his family, but now he fears discovery. It’s easier to let his brothers handle everything, but Jordon has reached his limit. He’s ready to draw some boundaries so he can be his own man and face all the challenges that come with that.
Their families and careers aren’t the only obstacles. Jordon must accept his identity as a gay man who doesn’t top or bottom. Fortunately, Tian Di—and his special talents—help Jordon open up to his sexuality in an erotic adventure that spans Japan and China, and with love, luck, hard work, and open minds, will end in a happily ever after.
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