Thursday, February 27, 2020


While the Chinese drama The Untamed based on the novel: The Grandmaster of Demonic Cultivation written by Mo Xiang Tong Xiu isn’t perfect it is perfect to me.



“In a magical world of inter-clan rivalry, two soulmates face treacherous schemes and uncover a dark mystery linked to a tragic event in the past.”

 

 WARNING:


**It will drag you by the hair through 50 magical episodes and give you a happily ever after. (All the feelings might overwhelm you but remain seated and WATCH… you can even see a damn reflection in the character’s pupil > so yes the cast & crew did their utmost to honor the story and not screw the fans.




Keep in mind:
*It was only in 1997 that China stopped considering homosexuality a crime.
*A writer of slash fiction was jailed for 10 years in China.
*It took me (Z. Allora > ME!) 5.5 years to find the only and only gay bar in Suzhou China. That was in 2011.

In the article Chinese homoerotic writer jailed for ten years published on 20 November 2018 shared some facts about China’s take on homoerotic writing:

“Homoerotic novels are not uncommon in China and are easily accessible via different websites, but those who earn 50,000 yuan (US$7,200) or more in producing or disseminating “obscene” material are subject to Chinese criminal law.

Gay romance stories are popular in China too — in fact, there is a term in Chinese for women who are fans of gay love stories, or “funu”.”

But in recent weeks, Beijing has cracked down on “illegal” publications, a broadly defined category that includes pornography, as well as work that “endangers national unity” and “disturbs social order”.

Last week, government regulators increased the amount of cash rewards Chinese citizens can earn for reporting “illegal” publications to authorities — an upper limit of 600,000 yuan ($86,000)….

Gay-themed films struggle to make it into movie theatres, same-sex relationships are banned from television screens and gay content is forbidden on online streaming platforms.”

So I understand the critics who are pissed that in The Untamed we didn’t see Lan Zhan & Wei Wuxian’s love on the page, I would argue we most certainly did to a level (having lived there) shocked and pleased me greatly!

The actors, directors, coaches, ad camera crew took it directly up to the line and nudged the limits as much as they safely could.

I hear the screams of that’s baiting but there was never one moment they back away from the love these two shared. Did they make out onscreen > sadly no. But I, Z. Allora (> sayer of things like “plot is the words between sex scenes”) didn’t think it was necessary. (I know you best sit down right? LOL)

Their shared stares, touches, gestures, and devotion to each other made up for not seeing it what we normally see between a couple. It was more of Pride & Prejudice demostrations than fuck me up against the wall.

You don’t have to be a genius or squint too hard to see these actors and crew gave us as much what Mo Xiang Tong Xiu wrote in The Grandmaster of Demonic Cultivation.

After I finished the story I felt broken down and rebuilt. I started going at the episode one per week in my Yaoified Love group on Facebook if you’d like to join us… I do a blow by blow episode summary, then character POV summaries as well as finding interesting YouTube videos and clips about the story, actors, and behind the scenes.





I promise you might hate me for encouraging you but you'll have zero regrets.


Many hugs, Z.

Thursday, February 20, 2020

Wedding Traditions from Around the World


February 21st I married the love of my life. In celebration of this I found some wedding traditions (I've never heard of) from around the world. Enjoy the video.



A Jewish wedding tradition is the bride & groom take some time alone together right after the ceremony.

Happy Anniversary to the love of my life.
Wishing you all love, romance and happiness always.
Many hugs, Z.

Thursday, February 13, 2020

DECISIONS




Sometimes I giggle when I hear someone saying a sub has no choices. Geez Louise, sometimes it feels like that’s all a sub has. Questions that need answers, and choices that need decisions all fall to the sub.

Some submissives feel once they’ve submitted there’s no other choices to be made but I’d argue the decision not to safeword is a one hell of a major choice. Submission to a Dominant or Master needs to be made on a moment to moment basis.

Maybe not consciously, but the sub is following their need to service. They are choosing to stay and follow instructions. They are exchanging their power and submitting.

NOT DECIDING IS A DECISION
This is true in life and BDSM. Sitting on the fence or refusing to decide equates to nonaction which means the decision is not to act.

The Longest Night is about a sub’s decision to take a chance. It’s about Benjamin not settling for something easy but for holding out for what he needs.

Excerpt from The Longest Night  by Z. Allora
He dropped to his knees and adjusted his position. When happy with his display, he settled in to wait.
The hardness of the carpeted floor kept him centered on his purpose— to please Foster. Time ticked by as Benjamin reveled in the knowledge that Foster told him to do something and he submitted to the demand.
Members of Entwined gave him a wide berth, but he could feel their eyes on him. Some must wonder who he waited on. Was Foster watching him? He straightened his spine a little more.
He glanced at the clock—7:01 and no Foster. Maybe he wasn’t a Dom who was into being exact about time.
Another check—7:07. Benjamin’s knees were beginning to ache. The pain turned him on.
Still no Foster—7:13. Had Foster decided he didn’t want to do this? Maybe Benjamin wasn’t pleasing enough? Should he go?
Every second seemed like an hour and every minute a day.
At 7:16, doubt ate at him. Where was Foster? What had Benjamin done wrong?
When 7:20 arrived, Benjamin decided he’d wait all fucking night if he had to. He’d be worthy of Foster. If Foster wanted to test him, make him suffer, embarrass him, whatever Foster wanted, Benjamin would do. He’d earn the right to go into the back room and bend over for Foster.
At 7:23, his cock decided to lengthen in anticipation of all the delicious things Foster might do to him... or might not.


In this scene, Benjamin makes a decision and waits for the Dominant to join him. He’s confused and upset but it is his decision to submit to the situation.

There’s power in personal agency. Benjamin decided to remain on his knees. Once he settles into his choice, he accepts everything that means.

Here’s the buy link for The Longest Night: https://bit.ly/2PlqSxx


Always seek your own truth.

I’d love to hear from you so feel free to use the contact information and touch base with me.

Many hugs,
Z. Allora

Thursday, February 6, 2020

Cleaning Routine for Better Sex


How does cleaning help you sexually? Well when you are more relaxed and in control most of us usually feel more able to let go... and being able to be in the moment.
There are many cleaning rountines out there. Find one that works for you or make your own.
These suggestions are from Cleaning Mama. I live by them for years but didn't know it was a thing. It's all about 5 daily tasks, 1 weekly task, and monthly to do's as you can manage.
"Start with the dailies:
Don’t let yourself get overwhelmed! Choose one of the dailies to do every day this week:
  • Make your bed
  • Check the floors
  • Wipe counters
  • Pick up Clutter
  • One load of Laundry
Once you’ve mastered just one of the tasks, add a second task until you’ve mastered two tasks in your daily life. You’ll be surprised at how easy it is to add a routine when you tackle them one at a time! If you’re looking at this list and you feel overwhelmed, email me. I’ll help you walk through your biggest challenges so you can end the overwhelm, once and for all.
Then, add the Weekly Tasks one at a time:
Once the dailies are a natural part of your day, you can then add one of the weekly tasks. Here’s the schedule:
  • Mondays - Bathrooms
  • Tuesdays - Dusting
  • Wednesdays - Vacuum
  • Thursdays - Wash Floors
  • Fridays - Catch-All
  • Saturdays - Sheets & Towels
After a few weeks, you’ll look around to a clean home that finally feels manageable!" (Clean Mama
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCw54rchXf_JG9PWHyReMJCA)


Let me know if a cleaner space = better sex.
Hugs, Z.