Thursday, March 28, 2019

Japan & Queer Manga


If you know me, you've heard me defend yaoi/bara/manga. Many people rail against the queerbaiting (the practice of hinting at a same sex romantic relationship but never showing it), non-consensual sex scenes (no, no, no, until YES now), "loving" rape, etc that can fill the pages giving people a twisted view of same sex relationships.

BUT: It many cases there are pages and pages of exploring feelings (previously) forbidden, readers finding out they are not alone in their desires, etc.

In the past, LGBTIA+ people were not discussed openly. That is changing now and I believe partly due to yaoi/bara/manga. Readers are being exposed to pictures and stories that light their imagine and explain some of the basics.

Recently, it's also changed dramatically. We are beginning to see middle stream manga with loving relationships that are simply in the background. (Can I hear a shout out for Yaoi On Ice?) But the same way allies/advocates aren't born with all the right words and phrases Japan (as is much of the rest of the world) are evolving in their understanding of LGBTIA+ and what that means for each individual.

Here's an article that leads to a documentary on an exploration of queer manga. (I haven't watched it yet but I'm looking forward to it). 

BUT before you go here's the link to my free Yaoified Love.






ON to the article! Hugs, Z.





Thursday, March 21, 2019

4 out of 5 men don't think mutual masturbation is a 'gay' act

Sometimes M/M romance is criticized for not being realistic.

How could a 'straight' man start a sexual relationship with another man?

Let's ignore that some men are bisexual & may not be aware of their orientation or demisexual - need a connection to experience attraction and maybe not be aware of it.

This article discusses a mindset not everyone is aware of... instead of summarizing I'm going to quote Joe Morgan.

"...to his surprise, he found 82% of 565 respondents said mutual masturbation isn’t gay.

For the second question, he also asked about various actions which ‘makes’ a man gay.

Most men then responded with ‘kissing another guy’ and ‘becoming emotionally involved with a male sex partner’.

‘According to these responders,’ Mustain wrote, ‘touching a cock isn’t gay; lips touching lips is gay; and for that matter, heart touching heart is really gay.’

He added: ‘It can be frustrating, seeing straight men debate the infinitesimal difference between touching your own cock and someone else’s, hearing each one hand-wring about “how far he’ll go,” and whether double penetration or using a Fleshlight on a friend is gay.’" (Gay News Dec. 18, 2018)



So if this is the case > how unrealistic is it for some of these guys 'who have sex with men' to develop feelings?

Hugs, Z.

Thursday, March 14, 2019

First Time Topping... not always great


Here's one of those non-romantic 1st times I won't be writing about.... 

(Warning: This guy's fear of making the other guy he topped mad is distressing and how the other guy reacted is also very sad.)



Thursday, March 7, 2019

Top 5 Things I Wished I Knew Before I Was Published


1)    I needed beta/critique partners.
I sent my first draft to publisher. (I know I know…) I was isolated in China and had NO CLUE on how many times you should re-read, edit, re-read a draft before you hand it off to a beta/critique partner to do the same. Then work through their feedback, re-read and do it all again before you even think about sending your work in.
2)    Scrivener
This is a writing program, and at this point I don’t think I could write without it. I plot and have an outline but I have a constant rush of ideas when I’m not “writing” (aka working on the story) Scrivener gives me some place to put those notes. It allows me to label and shuffle chapters easily. It keeps everything on one screen for easy access (all my chapters, research, character sketches, world building, notes, summaries, POVs, etc.).
3)    Character Sketches
These usually include: physical description, background, family situation, milestone experiences, internal motivation, external motivation, conflicts, relationships to others, and other basic information. Understanding the characters is a no brainer but a character page allows you to keep all the little details straight if you write another book with the same character. I live with characters sometimes for years but I like knowing their birthdates, eye color, and internal conflicts at a glance.
4)    Publishing is more than writing
When a publisher invests in you there are things you can do to help ensure they see a return on their time and money. You need to maintain a presence on Facebook, Twitter, Insta-gram, Pinterest, Redbubble, etc. (Facebook and Twitter are no problem for me). Having a blog and a website helps you interact with readers and allows them to find out more about you and about your work. (This takes blood, sweat and tears for me to do this one). Then there’s promotion which is tough to do because it feels like you’re saying buy my book again and again > which you are but I’ve learned to do is really share pieces of myself, the story, my process, and extras that have gone into beloved characters. You need to consider attending conventions, writing retreats, festivals, Pride, etc. so people can meet you in person. The writing part is easy… it’s the sharing that can be work.
5)    Branding
My love describes Z. Allora as who I am when I’m my absolute self. Meaning a 13-year old boy who loves penises, bunnies, sex, and a beret wearing LGBTQ warrior ready to throat punch at a giggle’s notice. When a reader picks up a Z. Allora book they know it’s going to be a yaoified romance with lots of sex, fluffy deliciousness, and a happily ever after. I think branding who you are is essential because buying a book is a contract between the reader and the author. You want know if you’re on the same page with someone or not. Branding gives that information.


The Great Wall Blurb:
Destiny will be decided by a battle between heart and mind….

Jun Tai “Styx” Wong loves two things: playing the drums and his best friend, Jin. But being a good Chinese son means he can’t have either—he’ll have to marry a girl of his parents’ choosing and settle into a traditional job. His move to the bigger city of Suzhou is both a blessing and curse, as living with Jin makes it harder for Styx to suppress his desires. Nearly dying while trying to eradicate his feelings serves as a wake-up call for Jin, who takes extreme measures to keep Styx safe from harm.

When given a second chance at life and happiness, will Styx be able to claim the future he wants with Jin, his bandmates, and his music? Can love and hope grow with the constantly looming threat of Styx’s parents ordering him home? Great things await—if Styx finds the courage to break down the wall that stands between him and everything he wants.

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Z. Allora believes in happily ever after for everyone. She met her own true love through the personals and has traveled to over thirty countries with him. She’s lived in Singapore, Israel and China. Now back home to the USA she’s an active member of PFLAG and a strong supporter of those on the rainbow in her community. She wants to promote understanding and acceptance through her actions and words. Writing rainbow romance allows her the opportunity to open hearts and change minds.
To contact Z. Allora:
E-mail: Z.AlloraHappyEndings@gmail.com
FACEBOOK:   Z Allora Allora
Twitter: @ZAllora
Queer Romance Ink: www.queeromanceink.com/mbm-book-author/z-allora